From the Publisher:

We’ve all been there. A conversation with a loved one escalates into conflict. Voices rise to a fever pitch and angry, accusative words fly through the air. At times like these, it seems impossible to find the magic words that will lead to healing. Enter Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love.

A psychotherapist with decades of experience in counseling couples, Nancy Dreyfus hit upon the revolutionary practice outlined in this book during a couples-therapy session in which a wife’s unrelenting criticism of her husband was causing him to become emotionally withdrawn. In the midst of this, Dreyfus found herself scribbling on a scrap of paper, “Talk to me like I’m someone you love” and gestured to the husband that he should hold it up. He did and within seconds the familiar power differential between the two shifted, and a gentler, more genuine connection emerged. Dreyfus was startled, then intrigued, and then motivated to create a tool that could help others.

This elegantly packaged spiral-bound book features more than one hundred of Dreyfus’s “flash cards for real life”-written statements that express what we wish we could communicate to the person we love, but either can’t find the right words or the right tone in which to say it. The statements include:

*Taking responsibility: “I realize I’m overreacting. Can you give me a minute to get sane again?”

*Apologizing: “I know I’ve really hurt you. What can I do to help you trust me again?”

*Loving: “You are precious, and I get that I haven’t been treating you like you are.”

A one-of-a-kind, practical relationship tool, Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love will help couples to stop arguing and begin healing.

About the Author:

Nancy Dreyfus, Psy.D., is a psychotherapist and couples therapist with more than two decades of experience. She holds a doctorate degree from Hahnemann University Medical School. She lives near Philadelphia.

My Review:
What a fantastic little book – filled with a LOT!
101 “Flashcards” with corresponding advice and insight.
Divided into the following catagories:
Shifting Gears
Setting Limits
Feeling Vulnerable
Taking Responsibility
Giving Information
Getting Clarification
Apologizing
Loving
Making Up

It’s so easy to find exactly what you need.
Need some space?  Try Card #7.
(I know you want to repair this, but
right now I just need to be in my own space. 
Please – try not to take this personally.  
I love you.)
Made a mistake? Card #39 should do the trick.
(I can see that I’ve missed the point.
Please give me another chance.)

Need to apologize?  Card #72 
(I’m sorry.)
Works for just about every situation.
 Or maybe your would prefer Card #94.
(I can see how upset you are, and I feel terrible.)
Did you over react?
How about Card #79
(I’m sorry I made such a big deal out of something 
so unimportant.)

Want to let him or her know that you care? 
Card #93 is perfect.
(I treasure you.)
Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love
would make a perfect wedding gift.

Thanks so much to Lisa
at Online Publicist
for giving me the opportunity to
read and review this book.

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DISCLAIMER
I received a copy of this book, at no charge to me,
in exchange for my HONEST review.
No items that I receive “in kind”
are ever sold…they are kept by me,
given to family or friends,
or donated to The Polk Education Foundation, 
 my local library, or given away on
contests on this blog.
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