We have to remember that as mothers and fathers that we can suffer from being a helicopter parent from time to time. If our children have problems, sometimes it’s easier for us to swoop in and solve them. But we’ve got to remember how this will impact the quality of life over time. If our children never have the opportunity to solve their own problems and we always do things for them, they’re never going to learn any sense of resilience. Life is full of hard stuff, so what can you do to help your children overcome various difficulties in life, including the common ones?
Here are ways to help your children overcome common difficulties.
Give Them Problem-solving Games
When people become accustomed to the fact that there are little problems in life, this can encourage problem-solving skills and resilience. They don’t have to be anything incredibly stressful, but you have to remember that it’s about moving the comfort zone out very slightly. You can implement something a bit sneaky is apparent. If you and your child play games like Words With Friends, you could very well become a Words With Friends cheat to try and get one over on them! This could very well make me frustrated, but it’s now the opportunity to show them why overreacting isn’t a useful skill. When our children get stressed, they will feel the burdens of life across the board. But if we can teach our children not to get stressed, especially with something as unimportant as a board game, then you can give them the all-important tool of perspective.
Give Them The Right Tools
Problem-solving is something that we should have learned in school. And in one respect life will allow you to solve certain problems but you’ve got to remember that does the parents who provide the blueprint. This means that you should give them a diverse palette of tools to solve problems. When our children have skills to not overreact to situations that also figure out ways around problems, they won’t stress out, and they will have a far better quality of life. The right tools are various, but on a simple level, they are motivation perseverance and self-confidence.
Don’t Encourage Them To Give Up
If you want to raise a resilient child, you’ve got to put problems in place, but you’ve also got to make sure that giving up is the very very last option. We can try something once or twice, and it’s not sticking. And it’s as much a lesson for us as it is for our children. If you give up as soon as you try something, this doesn’t send the right message. When your children hit the wall, which we all do on occasion, you can’t encourage them to give up at all! It’s all about giving them the problem-solving skills to try every single option. But it’s also making sure that they have tried their best! After all, if you try the best you can, this is good enough!
And remember, these problems don’t get solved unless you discuss them with your child. As good as it is to provide these tools to your children and give them stressful situations to get out of, if they don’t know how to use the tools they’ve got or they are feeling overwhelmed by stressful situations you’ve got to remember to encourage discussion. This is what will be the most important problem-solving skill of all.