Has a recent infertility diagnosis left you reeling?
You’re not alone.
Approximately 1 in 8 UK women struggle with infertility, with this figure increasing dramatically as they approach their late thirties and early forties.
The most common culprit?
That’s why a growing number of women are turning to donor eggs. If you’re considering this avenue to conceive, you may have lots of questions.
You may want to contrast fresh versus frozen eggs, look into the variety of egg donors available, and consider all the different emotions you may face on this journey.
Below, we’ll help you consider these points by briefly looking at the what, why, and how of using donor eggs.
What Are the Benefits of Donor Eggs?
As previously mentioned, an egg donor removes one of the most common issues with a woman’s infertility – her eggs.
From the day you’re born, your egg quantity and quality begin to diminish. This starts to rapidly accelerate throughout your thirties and forties – a time when many people want to start a family.
This isn’t to say your body can’t carry, give birth to, and breastfeed your own baby. You simply may need a little help in the initial conception.
Using an egg donor overcomes these hurdles you’re facing. Once implantation occurs, you’re free to enjoy a pregnancy like any other. You’ll feel those first kicks, experience the joys of pregnancy, and give birth like you’ve always dreamed of.
Should I Choose a Donor from an Egg Bank or Someone I Know?
As you begin to consider the idea of using donor eggs, you may start to wonder who you can use as your egg donor.
Thoughts may turn toward someone you know – perhaps a trusted friend, sister, or cousin.
How wonderful would it be to know your child will share your family’s genes or the genes of a lifelong friend?
At first, these thoughts may be comforting to you. But it’s important to cast your mind further ahead, after your child’s birth and when your child is growing up.
How will this change the dynamics of your relationship with your donor? Will the donor play a role in your child’s life? Will you tell your child the identity of the donor?
Assessing these potential complications now is crucial to ensuring the happiness and well-being of you, your family, and your donor. In fact, these are common reasons why you may want to consider choosing a donor from an egg bank.
If you decide to move forward with an egg bank donor, your donor isn’t chosen randomly out of a hat. Rather, this choice is a deeply personal one that you’re given the time and freedom to make yourself. You’ll be given access to a large database of potential candidates where you’ll be able to consider their individual traits and characteristics until you find someone that’s right for you.
What’s the Difference Between Fresh and Frozen Donor Egg?
The main differences between fresh and frozen donor egg are the time required to complete a cycle and cost. Fresh donor egg requires the synchronization of your cycle and your donor’s cycle, which adds to the cost of the process, as you’ll have to travel to and from your donor’s clinic (or cover the costs of the donor traveling to yours).
With frozen donor egg, your cycle can fit your schedule. The eggs are already frozen and waiting for when you’re ready – not when your donor or clinic is ready. This reduces the cost and much of the stress involved as you only have to be concerned about your own cycle.
How Am I Going to Feel Throughout This Process?
This is a common question but one that’s hard to answer, as there are so many different emotions involved in this process.
To begin, the idea of requiring intervention to create your family is often overwhelming and heartbreaking.
Then, as you start to look at your options, see the wide range of egg donors available, and begin to see a light at the end of the tunnel, those feelings of sadness can be replaced with hope and happiness.
Finally, when you head to the clinic for your blood pregnancy test, that glimmer of happiness turns into the brightest of smiles. You’re pregnant. You’ve done it. You’re about to be a mom!