The Dying Flame: 7 Signs Your Relationship is Mentally Draining You

To enjoy a great relationship you need to be mentally invested in the partnership but when things are not quite going to plan, for whatever reason, that can take a toll on your mental health and wellbeing.

Options such as telehealth therapy services might be able to help you put things right in your mind and find a way forward. It can also help if you are able to spot the telltale signs that your relationship is taking too much out of you in the first place.

Controlling your thoughts

A surefire danger sign is when you spend an unhealthy amount of your day focusing your thoughts on your partner and the state of your relationship.

If you find yourself thinking about where they are and what they are doing when they aren’t with you, that is something that can become very draining.

You look forward to time alone

Do you find yourself looking forward to the opportunity of some time alone away from your partner?

Finding yourself thinking positively about the chance to be on your own for a few days is a red flag in your relationship.

You lack energy

The pace of modern life can be tiring at the best of times but if you are focusing too much of your energy on your partner’s physical and emotional needs that can be detrimental to your own wellbeing.

You need to prioritize your own energy needs and make changes if that is not happening.

You feel overwhelmed

A bad sign in your relationship is when you tend to feel that your partner is putting too much pressure on you and asking too much from you, all of which can be very emotionally draining.

You should not be feeling so overwhelmed by the constant requests for attention made by your partner.

Too tired to talk anymore

It’s great to have an open and free-flowing dialogue within a relationship but if you find that your conversations often leave you feeling exhausted, that is not a good thing.

You often have to think carefully about your words or actions

A good relationship thrives on each person knowing what the other is like and making allowances for their ways as part of the deal.

What is not good in a relationship is when you constantly feel that you are walking on eggshells and have to be careful about what you say or do for fear of annoying or upsetting your partner.

Your partner is not meeting your own emotional needs

It is all very well investing your time and emotions into making your relationship work but that involves your partner reciprocating with some attentive actions aimed at you too.

If you find that your emotional needs are not being met and the relationship is a bit of a one-way street in that respect, it is clearly going to be emotionally draining trying to keep things together under those circumstances.

Ask yourself if any of these classic signs apply to you and whether you feel more emotionally drained about your relationship than you realized.